LIAR, CHEATER, PUMPKIN EATER!!!
Posted: Wed Jul 25, 2007 9:44 pm
I wasn't sure whether to blog about this, for reasons that will become clear shortly.
Anyone who knows me, will know that I never miss a trick. I have a mind that will tear the hand off any gift of information, and store it deep down where I can recall it like a photograph.
If someone lies to me, cheats, or fucks me over, I will refer back to my memory banks and be able to confront you with every scrap of evidence that ever set off an alarm bell.
Perhaps because in most situations I would rather avoid conflict at all times, you may think you've gotten away with something. You haven't.
I don't always say what I've seen. Most times I let things roll over me. But even if you think I didn't put two and two together, believe me - you didn't get away with it.
I had an ex girlfriend who ditched me to go to a New Years Eve party without me. This left me in the toad, as I had been waiting so long to organise something, that with two days before I was left with nothing and nobody to go out with on NYE.
Basically, she had been bought a ticket to a fancy dress party by a workmate. She thought it was for a different night, but then realised it was for NYE. She tried to get me another ticket, but, alas, they were all gone. She chose to leave me and go to this party, dressed as a monk.
That was the end of the relationship for me right there, but she begged and pleaded and it was another few months before we actually split.
Now, I suspected she didn't want me there. Who leaves their partner on NYE - especially when they know that partner has nothing else they can do because they were waiting on you?
I was not amused.
She'd also been spending a lot of time around her ex. Naturally, I asked her if he was at the party.
She denied it. Fair enough, I had to trust her word on that.
So when we split and had The Talk about what had gone wrong between us, I brought it up again. Had she ditched me to be at the party with him? No, she assured me. No reason to lie, because we were splitting whatever.
We stayed 'friends' after the split, but never actually met up for months. It was a Good and mutual split, so no hard feelings - I doubt either of us ever shed a tear.
So eventually I fulfilled my Friend duties and went around to her new place for the evening. No rumpy-pumpy - just a meal and some catching up.
It was when she was showing me some photographs that I saw her dressed in a monks outfit for that NYE party. Next to it, was a photo of her ex dressed as a nun. "Well, if I went as a monk, he had to really go as a nun!" She laughed.
*DING DING DING DING*
What would you have done?
Gone apeshit? Had that 'I KNEW IT!!!' argument? Stormed out?
I did nothing at all. I chuckled along and I don't think she even thought I'd clicked.
We've split. It's all over, and never going to happen again. She's gone through a bit of a rough time lately, and I just didn't see a point to bringing it up. We just carried on a pleasant evening, and then I went home.
There were other things, too. Talk about some other people she'd 'done stuff' with that I suspected was while we were together. I said nothing.
I saw 2 pics of different naked men in her room. The room she moved out of just after we split. It's possible that they were after the split. I said nothing again.
Lots of little clues that confirmed some of my fears all came together...
So did I do the right thing?
Is what I did the noble, nice or peaceful thing to do?
Or by saying nothing, did I let someone walk all over me?
Anyone who knows me, will know that I never miss a trick. I have a mind that will tear the hand off any gift of information, and store it deep down where I can recall it like a photograph.
If someone lies to me, cheats, or fucks me over, I will refer back to my memory banks and be able to confront you with every scrap of evidence that ever set off an alarm bell.
Perhaps because in most situations I would rather avoid conflict at all times, you may think you've gotten away with something. You haven't.
I don't always say what I've seen. Most times I let things roll over me. But even if you think I didn't put two and two together, believe me - you didn't get away with it.
I had an ex girlfriend who ditched me to go to a New Years Eve party without me. This left me in the toad, as I had been waiting so long to organise something, that with two days before I was left with nothing and nobody to go out with on NYE.
Basically, she had been bought a ticket to a fancy dress party by a workmate. She thought it was for a different night, but then realised it was for NYE. She tried to get me another ticket, but, alas, they were all gone. She chose to leave me and go to this party, dressed as a monk.
That was the end of the relationship for me right there, but she begged and pleaded and it was another few months before we actually split.
Now, I suspected she didn't want me there. Who leaves their partner on NYE - especially when they know that partner has nothing else they can do because they were waiting on you?
I was not amused.
She'd also been spending a lot of time around her ex. Naturally, I asked her if he was at the party.
She denied it. Fair enough, I had to trust her word on that.
So when we split and had The Talk about what had gone wrong between us, I brought it up again. Had she ditched me to be at the party with him? No, she assured me. No reason to lie, because we were splitting whatever.
We stayed 'friends' after the split, but never actually met up for months. It was a Good and mutual split, so no hard feelings - I doubt either of us ever shed a tear.
So eventually I fulfilled my Friend duties and went around to her new place for the evening. No rumpy-pumpy - just a meal and some catching up.
It was when she was showing me some photographs that I saw her dressed in a monks outfit for that NYE party. Next to it, was a photo of her ex dressed as a nun. "Well, if I went as a monk, he had to really go as a nun!" She laughed.
*DING DING DING DING*
What would you have done?
Gone apeshit? Had that 'I KNEW IT!!!' argument? Stormed out?
I did nothing at all. I chuckled along and I don't think she even thought I'd clicked.
We've split. It's all over, and never going to happen again. She's gone through a bit of a rough time lately, and I just didn't see a point to bringing it up. We just carried on a pleasant evening, and then I went home.
There were other things, too. Talk about some other people she'd 'done stuff' with that I suspected was while we were together. I said nothing.
I saw 2 pics of different naked men in her room. The room she moved out of just after we split. It's possible that they were after the split. I said nothing again.
Lots of little clues that confirmed some of my fears all came together...
So did I do the right thing?
Is what I did the noble, nice or peaceful thing to do?
Or by saying nothing, did I let someone walk all over me?
